I turned 68 Monday had been thinking after, about mentors of my past. Dad passed in 1986 and still miss him.Our oldest brother passed 5 yrs ago Nov. Yesterday our other (middle) brother passed away. Thats the last of my original mentors. Now I guess I am the mentor my family, a son a daughter, an d 4 grand children. Never really thought about it, but the time had to come, and it is okay. By GOD's Grace they were all 3 forgiven I don't mean to seem sad or morbid because Iam not for I was able to spend a lot time with them over the yrs and will cherish those as long as I have my mind and by GOD's grace. We would appreciate you prayers very much.
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CWLONGSHOT
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Sorry for your loss. I have lost friends parents of coarse grand parents and last year my wife. Its not easy. Not easy at all. Harder, and easier at the same time when your in the leade. As those are depending upon you.
God bless
CW
God bless
CW
Petrol & Powder
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The key to being a good mentor is knowing how to pass on knowledge without being overbearing. I’m not suggesting the OP is overbearing, I’m saying some mentors are better than others.
I’ve seen the master / apprentice relationship where the master wants to pass on his knowledge to the apprentice and performs that task well. I’ve also seen situations where the master just wants to constantly prove how smart he is and reinforce how little the apprentice knows. That arrogant style is not very productive. Again, not saying that is happening here.
If you want to be a good mentor, build your students up, don’t tear them down.
A couple of years ago I watched a skilled tradesman install a new HVAC system. He had two assistants, one of which was clearly an apprentice. The “master” was arrogant, demeaning, constantly critical and basically a jerk. I watched him and listened to him, and he did know what he was doing; he just had no clue on how to pass that knowledge along. The master was insecure and fearful the student might overtake the master.
I’ve also seen mentors that wanted their students to eventually surpass the teacher. They built their students up and the students wanted to do well for the master. That’s a much better method.
So if you're going to take on the role of master - some humility goes a long way.
I’ve seen the master / apprentice relationship where the master wants to pass on his knowledge to the apprentice and performs that task well. I’ve also seen situations where the master just wants to constantly prove how smart he is and reinforce how little the apprentice knows. That arrogant style is not very productive. Again, not saying that is happening here.
If you want to be a good mentor, build your students up, don’t tear them down.
A couple of years ago I watched a skilled tradesman install a new HVAC system. He had two assistants, one of which was clearly an apprentice. The “master” was arrogant, demeaning, constantly critical and basically a jerk. I watched him and listened to him, and he did know what he was doing; he just had no clue on how to pass that knowledge along. The master was insecure and fearful the student might overtake the master.
I’ve also seen mentors that wanted their students to eventually surpass the teacher. They built their students up and the students wanted to do well for the master. That’s a much better method.
So if you're going to take on the role of master - some humility goes a long way.
oscarflytyer
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Sad to lose family and especially mentors. 5 boys/2 DILs/2 almost DIL's. I am the family mentor now. Also have a number of friends and Son's friends, that reach out to me. And I do enjoy it. Plus/fortunately, there are still a couple I can reach out to in case I am 'not in the know.' And a lot of you guys here help me/keep me straight/save me from learning a LOT of things the very hard way - which I greatly appreciate!
I understand completely, thanks.
I have tried never overbearing and arrogant toward anyone. whenever either of my children asked to help or wanted to learn to do something. I first aOr my grandchildren. Ifirrst asked he or she if they could think of any reason that they shouldn't be able to. I have a21 yr young granddaughternow , when she was15 she was spending the day with me . The mail arrived with a S&W K frame trigger kit .She asked what was in the package. I replied ,springs for your favorite revolver. s She asked could she help. I said sure. Wewatched youtube video, then she proceeded take 17 apart,I showed her how do a small amount of polishing and then put it back together. With no physical help from papaw, maybe a few soft verbal nudges from me. Man was I Proud and its very cherished memory. It know belongs to her and her sisters. well thats enough rambling. thanks my brother shooters and casters.
Petrol & Powder
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PGPKY2014 - that's the way to do it.