In grade school I died of embarrassment at least a dozen times . By highschool I had figured out how to talk to just a few in the room . I was never a solo in band until right at the end when I was the only one in my section ...... Hated that .
Years later a girl I went to school with was flagging for road construction and we talked a little about school " why wouldn't the girls talk to me ?" , "You were just so self confident , it was really intimidating . Most of us probably would have dumped a steady if you'd asked directly a second time ." That explains a lot ...... I don't know how a nonconfrontational semi introvert can be intimidatingly confident but it seems to have something to do with how I carry myself . Highschool would have been more fun with that tidbit . I probably wouldn't have the family I do know though so it all worked out .
I still hate public speaking , sales and CS are 2 places not for me . I can do it but I'm better at bolstering those around me to do it . Sort of a company Sargent that likes the Louie but has 2 Corporals to keep the paper squared away and the privates are scared to death .
I find doing things myself easier than relating how to do them . So a teacher I'm not . Wanna know how to do it , watch this . Good try this . There you go , polish the act you got ........or , yeah this way ain't happening for you , move along .